The Mother Of A Severely Autistic Girl Makes A Painfully Honest Confession

I love my disabled child – but I’d give my life to make her normal: The mother of a severely autistic girl makes a painfully honest confession

  • Meg Henderson writes a reply to Dominic Lawson who said he would never want to ‘cure’ his daughter from Down’s syndrome
  • Daughter Louise is brain-damaged and autistic and mother says disability took an ‘intolerable toll’ on the family
  • At 34, Louise is now settled in a special village in Fife where she receives dedicated care

By MEG HENDERSON
Most nights, for more years than I can remember, I have had the same dream. I’m walking along the street, arm-in-arm with my beautiful, dark-haired daughter.
Her brown eyes are sparkling with joy, she’s chatting 19 to the dozen, making me laugh and giggle along with her. But every morning I wake to the same chilling reality. My 34-year-old daughter, Louise, is disabled.
Her speech can be almost unintelligible even to us, she will never hold down a job, have a family or even live by herself. Louise is a scared, anxious little girl imprisoned in a woman’s body.

Terrible toll: Meg Henderson wishes her disabled daughter Louise, pictured age three, could lead a normal life

Terrible toll: Meg Henderson wishes her disabled daughter Louise, pictured age three, could lead a normal life

Her dream is to have 20 children and 20 cats and to marry a man who owns a curry shop, because curry is her favourite food.
Will any of it happen? Of course not. The brutal truth is that Louise’s life is little more than a living death. She can never look forward to the things the rest of us can. And, forgive me for saying it, her problems are a huge burden to herself and her family.
That’s why, when I read in the Mail last week that Dominic Lawson wouldn’t change a thing about his 17-year-old disabled daughter, Domenica, who has Down’s syndrome, I just couldn’t understand his position.

Responding to news that scientists may have made a breakthrough in Down’s syndrome research, Mr Lawson is adamant he wouldn’t want to ‘cure’ Domenica. He says that her family love her just the way she is.
Well, I’m sure I love my daughter, who is brain-damaged and severely autistic, every bit as much as he loves his. And that is precisely why I would lay down my own life to remove her handicap. For her life certainly isn’t — and never will be — a full one.
The simple truth is that Louise’s handicap — and, let’s not beat about the bush, a ‘handicap’ is exactly what it is — isn’t just hard for her to bear, it has taken an intolerable toll on the rest of her family.

Bullied: Euan, right, and Marion, left, were picked on at school for defending their disabled sister Louise, centre

Bullied: Euan, right, and Marion, left, were picked on at school for defending their disabled sister Louise, centre

I wouldn’t wish the hell we have endured on anyone. Because for many average families such as mine, having a handicapped child is hell. You enter a black tunnel from which you never escape.
Mr Lawson says that having Domenica — whose godmother was Princess Diana, a family friend — has taught him wonderful life lessons.
I’m sure this is true for him. But I must confess that I am tired of hearing about devoted parents who say that seeing the world through a handicapped child’s eyes is a blessing.
Please forgive me for sounding so cynical, but I’m convinced that parents say this only because they need to find something positive in their difficult, if not miserable, situations.
Let me tell you the unvarnished truth based on my experiences. There is nothing positive about a child’s life being limited by physical or mental difficulties — not for the child, and not for its family.
Every family with a handicapped child becomes a handicapped family. That is a fact.
When I married Robert in 1971, we dreamt of having a perfect family. I was 23, he was 36. We set up home on a Scottish island, and were thrilled when our son, Euan, was born in 1976. But we had much more love to give. And that’s why, when Euan was four, we jumped at the chance to adopt two little girls — Louise, then aged almost three, and her sister, Marion, who was nearly two.
We knew the girls had endured a troubled background, but we had no idea that Louise had been brain damaged by previous physical abuse and was also autistic.
Gradually, her problems became clear. She was so hyperactive she rarely slept. She screamed incessantly — a howl that seeped into every corner of my brain. She was four before she said her first word, ‘duck’.

Dream: Louise wants to have 20 children and 20 cats but her mother said her dream will never come true

Dream: Louise wants to have 20 children and 20 cats but her mother said her dream will never come true

We spent hours painstakingly trying to teach her to walk and talk. She was impossible to toilet train. Even aged four, when left on a potty or toilet, she smeared herself with excrement.
With the reasoning ability and control of a baby, she couldn’t be left alone for a second. One day, she fed the money we kept safe in the house into an open fire.
As a writer, working at home was impossible. Zombified by lack of sleep and the stress of coping with Louise, every day was pure torture. My husband came home from his job as a driver with the local council to a wife who was bouncing off the walls.
Nevertheless, we loved Louise passionately, and were convinced that our efforts would bring eventual improvement.
Every family with a handicapped child becomes a handicapped family. That is a fact
Yet alongside my zeal ran a terrible guilt. I knew I was short-changing my other children, Marion and Euan. Their needs came bottom of the list; Louise was sucking us dry. Some families are lucky enough to be able to afford hired help when they have handicapped children. Sadly, this wasn’t an option for us. And so the reality of having a handicapped child was that there simply wasn’t enough time and attention to go around. Louise’s needs were a bottomless pit.
Robert and I never attended a single parent’s evening, sports day or carol concert together because one of us always had to stay at home with Louise. Her behaviour also affected the other children’s friendships, for who wanted to come and play when Louise was around?
We vowed we would make it up to them when Louise needed us less. What a pipe dream that was.
One challenge followed another. Because of her autism, Louise needed a life of strict routine, so we couldn’t go on holiday. Our home was a wreck because Louise had no co-ordination. She broke endless music players and TVs.
Euan and Marion are now married with families of their own. Marion, 33, is a musician and Euan, 36, works for BMW. They got good degrees and, on the surface, have good lives.
But — however unintentionally — we blighted their childhood. They suffered from permanent neglect, and I can never make that up to them.

Strain: Meg Henderson, centre, with her three children in 1984, said any family with a handicapped child becomes a handicapped family

Strain: Meg Henderson, centre, with her three children in 1984, said any family with a handicapped child becomes a handicapped family

Disabled: Louise, pictured at the age of three, was four years old before she said her first word, 'duck'

Disabled: Louise, pictured at the age of three, was four years old before she said her first word, ‘duck’

After four happy years, Euan lost the rest of his childhood. I had no time to help him with homework or show any interest in his hobbies, so he became self-sufficient and responsible to an extent that far exceeded his young age.
Desperate for attention, Marion went the other way. She threw temper tantrums, attacked Louise out of jealousy, and sneeringly labelled her brother ‘Mr Perfect’. To this day, she is still a drama queen.
I’m convinced that all families with a handicapped child will recognise that scenario and share the feelings of guilt. It really doesn’t matter what form of handicap a child has — whether autism, Down’s or another condition. Constant care is constant care.
You could argue that Marion was already tied to her sister by blood — but for Euan it was different. Parents are supposed to protect their children, and we failed Euan.
We loved Louise passionately, and were convinced that our efforts would bring eventual improvement
What hurts me most is that there was never any possibility that Louise could have made any real use of the time, energy and emotion we poured into her.
The effect on my marriage was also devastating. Couples split up very easily in similar circumstances, but we managed to cling to and lean on each other, too exhausted to fight.
And if that wasn’t hard enough, we had to fight for every scrap of support from the State.
The grim reality of caring for a handicapped child is that you have to battle for every bit of help, while agonising constantly about the future.
Perhaps part of the reason the Lawsons have had such a positive view of their daughter’s disability is because they have greater financial resources. Providing for and protecting your children is made easier when you have more money.
The sometimes precarious state of our finances meant that it was a constant battle to try to make ends meet. My husband and I worry constantly about what will happen when we are no longer there to provide for our Louise.
For years, the government agencies set up to help us seemed to be doing their very best not to do so. We were told that resources were scarce and that we’d have to cope alone. We didn’t know that benefits such as Carer’s Allowance existed, and — not being benefits savvy — it didn’t occur to us to ask.
When Louise was 14, her behaviour became even more impossible. I was as near as I’ve ever been to collapsing. Desperate, I asked social services for some help. They offered me an hour — just an hour — of respite care. What’s more, it never materialised: I never heard from them again.
So when my daughter wasn’t at school, she was with us 24/7. We even had to take our local authority to court to allow her to attend the local school. They’d wanted her to go to a special school, nowhere near where we live, so she would have had to board. The alternative was to have no education at all.
Even when we won our case and she was in the local school, she suffered terribly at the hands of bullies. Some call it teasing: I call it brutal sadism. What else would you call the laughter, the sniggering, the cat calls, pointing and the staring?

Loved: Meg Henderson said she would give her life for Louise, pictured aged 14, to lead a normal life

Loved: Meg Henderson said she would give her life for Louise, pictured aged 14, to lead a normal life

I remember one terrible time when Louise was dragged around the playground on her knees by the older children. She was being their ‘dog’, and didn’t understand it wasn’t just an innocent game.
This bullying places yet another burden on the rest of the family. They feel they have to defend their sibling at school, and so get the same cruel treatment.
Euan and Marion were also bullied mercilessly. They had no real friends. We were even banned from family weddings in case Louise disrupted proceedings.
Louise is just aware enough to know she’s different, to know when idiots make fun of how she talks or looks. But she doesn’t understand why they taunt her, or why they get away with it.
I have no doubt that the Lawsons love their daughter intensely — but even this love can’t protect Domenica from the anguish of isolation that goes with being handicapped.
Mr Lawson admits that she, too, is sufficiently intelligent to know that she is different: ‘She experiences a sharp sense of social isolation, as hardly any of the friends she has made at school have ever included her in their extra-curricular lives, or invited her to their parties,’ he said.
Who would wish this on anyone? Like the Lawsons, I love my daughter regardless of her problems. But I grieve for her and for all that she is missing out on.
Louise was 16 when we finally abandoned the last shred of hope that she was ever going to live a normal life. It was then that specialists finally diagnosed her with a mental illness, as well as severe autism and brain-damage, and gave voice to what we’d feared all along: that she would never become independent.
She is now 34, yet will never have her own home, marry, have children, a job or drive a car, and I see nothing on that sad list I wouldn’t change if I could. Wouldn’t any parent?
Today, our daughter lives in a special village near our home in Fife. It’s a wonderful, leafy campus, staffed by trained carers, set up to house adults with handicaps of every type. It has two farms, various workshops, a bakery, a café and a supermarket — all run by the residents.
Louise does live the best life she is capable of, working in the bakery and the shop.
The local authority pays for Louise’s care, but like all parents in similar positions, we live in constant fear that government cuts will bring this stability to an end.
Louise has been there since January 2012, and for the first time in her life she has friends. Everyone there has some difficulty, and they all support each other.
There’s a closeness and friendship there she has never experienced from the general public, and never would. She is valued as a person, not looked on with the pity, embarrassment or ridicule that have marked her entire life.
So now she is happy — and so, for the first time, are we.
Even so, she often pops up in my dreams as a completely normal young woman, and I wake in tears because I know that she will only ever be like that in my dreams.
Unlike Dominic Lawson, I would pay any price to remove Louise’s handicap. As I said, I would give my own life in exchange. That’s how much I love her.

Mom's Message About Child With ADHD Going Viral

Raising children is not easy… not easy at all. But raising a child with special needs comes with some unique challenges. And for Taylor Meyers, a single mother of two, raising a 4-year-old with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can be pretty darn difficult sometimes—which is why her honest post about being “that mom” is going viral.
It all started when Meyers’ daughter, Sophie, was misbehaving in the checkout line for the grocery store. She was wiggling in the cart, throwing a tantrum over chips and generally making life very difficult for her mother and her infant brother. Meyers ignored Sophie, not wanting to reinforce bad behavior, but not wanting to give up on her shopping and walk out of the store.

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Finally, she heard someone in line behind her say something nasty: “Oh…give her a cookie so she’ll shut up!” That’s when Meyers snapped.

“I could’ve responded in a nicer way. I could’ve explained to her that my four year old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I’m doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries,” Meyers wrote in her now-viral post about the incident. “Instead, I heard, “she’s four years old and you need to mind your own f***ing business” come out of my mouth.”
Although most toddlers struggle with tantrums, they can be especially severe for children with ADHD. According to Understood, an organization that shines a light on learning and attention issues in children, “kids with ADHD may have trouble with impulsivity or expressing their emotions, which can lead to angry outbursts.” Cue Sophie’s grocery store meltdown.

Luckily, the story has a happy ending: As Meyers scanned her items, another woman walked up to Sophie and attempted to distract her from the chips, saying, “No, you can’t have those today. You have to be good for your mommy. She needs you to be good for her. I have a little girl just like you. How old are you? How old is brother?”
The woman ended up walking them out of the store, and Meyers was so thankful she wrote this:
“It only takes one comment to break someone down. You never know what someone’s going through. You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave and unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge me. But It also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation. Thank you to the woman in Walmart today, for showing that kindness to my children and I. Thank you for walking us out. Thank you for backing me up. Mamas have to stick together.”

Another Heartwarming Story Of A Stranger Stepping In

When Rochel Groner heard a young boy screaming on an eight-hour transatlantic flight from Brussels to New York, she decided to lend a helping hand.
“It wasn’t a child asking for a toy or saying my ears are hurting. It didn’t sound like he was going to cry himself to sleep,” Groner told Southern Living. She thought to herself: “He’s upset. He’s non-verbal. He has special needs.”
Groner is a former elementary school teacher and, together with her husband Bentzion, she runs the Charlotte, North Carolina-based nonprofit Friendship Circle, which matches teen volunteers with children who have special needs such as autism. She used her experience working with special needs youth to calm the boy, who she estimated to be about 8 years old.
Here’s a shot from her husband’s Facebook of Groner comforting the child.

Groner cared for the boy for an hour or two, and the rest of the flight went off without a hitch.
Groner remains humble about her good deed and hopes that her story, which has since gone viral, will inspire others to be compassionate and helpful to strangers in need.
“Everybody’s been on a flight with a screaming child, and this is another way to defuse the situation,” she says. “Just ask: is there something I can do? Smile, don’t scowl,” she told the Charlotte Observer.

Texas School Destroys ADHD With This OLD SCHOOL Remedy

With the rise in students diagnosed and medicated for ADHD, this school seems to have found a pretty simple fix.
You’d think that most everyone could get behind a solution like this. The tree-huggers would love that it doesn’t involve pills. The health nuts would praise it for fighting obesity.
You’d almost have to be an ‘expert’ in academia’s ivory towers to oppose a solution so simple and obvious.
That, or else be deliberately rigging the system with the intention of sabotaging the academic success of boys. Because the solution to the spike in boys’ ADHD is ridiculously simple.
Let them run. No, really … that’s it.

While most school districts across the country are cutting back on recess time and ramping up the Ritalin, one Texas school has kindergartners and first graders sitting still and “incredibly attentive.”
What’s their secret? Their recess time has tripled. Instead of 20 minutes of recess per day, Eagle Mountain Elementary kindergartners and first graders now get an hour, broken up into four 15-minute breaks, in addition to lunchtime.
Their teachers say it’s totally transformed them. The kids are less fidgety, less distracted, more engaged in learning and make more eye contact.
Eagle Mountain is one of dozens of schools in Texas, Oklahoma and California testing out extra recess time as part of a three-year trial. The pilot program is modeled after the Finnish school system, whose students get some of the best scores in the world in reading, math and science.

It’s not just “play,” either.
It’s specifically UNSTRUCTURED play, where kids can be turned loose instead of funneled into activities that were organized for them. And yes… it’s better when the play is outside.
What are some of the benefits?

The CDC defines recess as “regularly scheduled periods within the elementary school day for unstructured physical activity and play.”
There has been a downward trend in time dedicated towards recess due to a belief that more time in the classroom results in better academic performance.
Other countries have demonstrated that academic achievement does not suffer – but improves – when including time for recess and physical education.
Benefits of Recess
Increased attentional focus
Improved academics
Improved attendance
Decreased behavioral diagnoses (anxiety, ADHD, anger)
Improved creativity and social skill development

And with so many boys either medicated or dropping out of school early, this sounds like a solid alternative.
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The Best Low Carb Bread for Buns and Rolls

Do you love bread? It’s probably the #1 food that people miss the most when it comes to following a low carb diet.
There are many keto bread recipes but in our opinion, this is probably the best keto bread substitute ever.
Here’s why: This one is simply amazing, delicious and it doesn’t taste so eggy like other bread recipes. It is light and fluffy and tastes almost flavorless. You can top with sesame seeds. It can absorb egg yolk and not gritty. This is probably the closest to a normal bread you can get.
You can use this recipe to make normal bread or subway bread with ham, bacon or meat balls as filling like this:

Keto subway bread

Photo credit: Maria Emmerich – source

You can sprinkle some seeds and topping such as some salt flakes and herbs on the bread before you take it into the oven. If you make this recipe into 6 pieces of bread, they each contain about 3 g of net carbs. Now you can have room for creative filling ideas such as chicken pate, smoked chicken, salt and pepper grilled chicken, Tuna or meat balls, ham and bacon like a subway sandwich.
You can also use this recipe to make the perfect Keto Hamburger Buns like what our friend Hannah from HealyEatsReal.com did here. You definitely want to follow Hannah on Instagram @healyeatsreal for more amazing original real food recipes as well as healthy living tips.
Feel free to save this recipe by pinning this picture to your Pinterest board for later use!
Keto Burger Buns


Updates:
Our friend Emma from @lowcarbmalta just shared with us her version of Home Made Gluten Free Hamburger Buns.
Her recipe is slightly different from our recipe below. However, we’d love to share her version here so you can also give it a try:
Ingredients for 6 buns:

  • 1 cup of almond flour
  • 3 egg whites
  • 300 ml hot water
  • 5 tablespoons psyllium husk
  • 2 teaspoons apple cider vinegar
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • Sesame seeds

Instruction:

  • Mix all ingredients and divide into 6 pieces and shape each into a ball. Flatten the ball so it’s about 1 centimeter thick.
  • Glaze with egg yolk and sprinkle sesame seeds on top of the bun.
  • Bake for 30-40 minutes on 175C (350F) degrees. Enjoy!

0g Carb Keto Chicken Salad

I’ve always counted macros and have always tried to avoid high-fat foods, but I have pretty much been eating the same exact food since 2009, and I think my body was just over it!I decided it was time to try something new and have several gym friends who rave about Keto, so I’m trying it out. So far I love it, I feel amazing, but I’m only a week in so too soon to really tell. I love the new foods and recipes I’m able to add into my daily meal plan and figured I’d share one of my new favorite discoveries! My own Keto Chicken Salad! Now me being me although I’m supposed to be eating fatty foods I refuse to overload on saturated fats, which is why I love Trader Joes Organic Mayo. It has 11g of fat a serving, but 8.5g of those are polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats, healthy fats instead of saturated fat. All the ingredients are less processed and contain no added sweeteners, but it actually tastes like traditional real mayonnaise.

MEG’S KETO CHICKEN SALAD

Ingredients

1.3 lbs of Chicken (about 3-4 chicken breasts)
7 Tablespoons of Trader Joes Organic Mayonnaise
2-3 Stalks Celery

2 -3 Table spoons Red Onion
Salt
Pepper
Garlic Powder
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Directions

  1. Bake chicken and cut into small pieces
  2. Dice celery and onion
  3. Combine chicken, mayo, celery and red onion
  4. Add salt pepper and garlic to taste

Makes 7 servings (111g is one serving)

* CORRECTION* so many people are commenting that this is not 0g Carbs, which technically they are correct. To clarify if you follow a keto diet, which counts net carbs it is less than 1 g net carbs… Total carbs = 1g, the dietary fiber in the recipe is 0.4g,  so 1 – 0.4g =0 .6, which makes the net carbs 0.6g, so I guess I should have titled it “0.6 Net Carb Chicken salad”

 
Enjoy!

5 Things To Know About Trigeminal Neuralgia, The Worst Pain in the World

This troubling condition is in the form of very severe facial pain that feels like an electric shock, and usually affects only one side of the face. Trigeminal neuralgia can be debilitating – but luckily, there is a treatment.
There are many different types of pain. As you may know, each is unique in its intensity and its characteristics. However, there’s one that’s commonly described as “the worst pain in the world”: trigeminal neuralgia.
In order to better understand this disease, we’ll talk about it in this article.
There are 12 pairs of nerves in the head. In some parts of the population, one of these nerve pairs can end up malfunctioning. This results in a condition that leaves the sufferer incapacitated.
That’s what causes trigeminal neuralgia.
Trigeminal neuralgia has been around for centuries. In fact, it was described for the first time by Aretaeus of Cappadocia, as far back as the second century.
It’s characterized by a painful tic, which feels like an electric shock radiating through the entire facial area between the cheekbone and the chin.
It’s always useful to know as much as possible about the conditions that affect us. That’s why we want to take the time today to explain 5 key features of trigeminal neuralgia.

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1. What Is Trigeminal Neuralgia?

Trigeminal neuralgia is a type of chronic pain caused by one particular nerve. Actually, it’s the nerve that gives the condition its name. The culprit is the fifth cranial nerve, which also happens to be the longest nerve in the head.
The condition takes the form of a severe tic. The tic can initially last for between two seconds and a whole minute. During this time, the sufferer is paralyzed and unable to chew or even speak because of the intensity of the pain.
When the condition first develops, the tics usually pass relatively quickly. Over time, however, trigeminal neuralgia can progress, leaving the patient suffering longer-lasting tics.
The nerve in question has three branches that cover the eye area, the scalp, the forehead and the front of the head.
This explains why people with trigeminal neuralgia typically experience pain in the jaw, the cheek, the lips, the teeth and even the gums.

A Blood Vessel Is To Blame!

The root cause of this condition and all the pain that comes with it is nothing more than a blood vessel. This vessel compresses the trigeminal nerve at the point where it leaves the brainstem.
For this to happen, the protective sheath surrounding the nerve gets worn away. This is either due simply to the passage of time, or because of a disease that damages the nerve’s myelin.
In turn, this progressive deterioration of the trigeminal nerve causes it to send abnormal signals to the brain.
The result? The most intense headache a human being can experience.

2. Symptoms To Watch Out For

Episodes come on suddenly. They’re brief, but they’re so intense that they feel like an “electric shock.” At first, someone experiencing this may have no idea what has happened. Actually, they may even pay little attention since it passes so quickly.
Little by little, the attacks begin to occur more frequently. After a while, you only have to touch your face, chew, talk, or even brush your teeth to bring on an attack.
The attacks of pain last anywhere between a couple of seconds and an entire minute.
Some people will be affected by tics over several days. Then, they may disappear until the following month. Others will spend months in a row experiencing frequent tics.
The pain radiates through the cheeks, the jaw, the teeth, the gums, the lips and – though less frequently – the eyes and forehead, for reasons we explained above.
However, the pain usually affects only one side of the face. The attacks will normally become more frequent and more intense with the passage of time.

3. Who’s Usually Affected By Trigeminal Neuralgia?

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Normally, people over the age of 50 are most commonly affected by trigeminal neuralgia. However, we shouldn’t forget that it can affect younger people, too.
The condition is more common in women than in men, and is often hereditary.

4. What Tests Will They Do On Me?

A positive diagnosis of trigeminal neuralgia is needed so doctors can differentiate it from other ailments (like migraines). The diagnosis is based on 3 key factors:

  • The type of pain: If the pain is very short-lived, you can already be pretty certain that you’re dealing with trigeminal neuralgia.
  • The location of the pain: Finding out which parts of the face are affected by the pain is a basic first step in diagnosing trigeminal neuralgia.
  • What triggers the pain: This type of neuralgia is often triggered by light stimulation to the cheeks, as well as by chewing and talking.

Once you’ve let your doctor know the answer to these questions, a specialist will be able to order the following tests:

  • A neurological test
  • An MRI scan

5. How Trigeminal Neuralgia is Treated

Pharmacological Treatments

No matter what, your doctor will always be the one who can point you in the direction of the most effective treatments. In this case, simple anti-inflammatory or analgesic drugs won’t do the trick.

  • Anticonvulsant medications are used to block the function of the part of the nervous system that’s causing problems.
  • Tricyclic antidepressants can also be effective when the pain is constant.

The Surgical Approach

If the drugs outlined above aren’t working, doctors may consider a surgical approach.
These can range from simple procedures to more complex operations, including the following techniques:

  • Rhizotomy: This is a procedure in which certain nerve fibers are targeted and destroyed in order to block the abnormal pain signals.
  • Balloon Compression: This is a simple and fast technique. To do this, surgeons insert a cannula, through which a small balloon is passed. This balloon compresses the trigeminal nerve to reduce overstimulation and the pain this causes.
  • Glycerol Injection: This is another technique designed to isolate the fibers of the trigeminal nerve, thereby preventing painful “electric shocks.”

Finally, in case none of the above tactics work, a procedure known as microvascular decompression is carried out. This is a more delicate intervention. However, it’s also the most effective of the options on offer. The best thing about it is that, once it’s competed, the trigeminal neuralgia won’t return.
So, while it may be the “worst pain in the world,” there’s no need to suffer forever. There is a solution.
No matter what, the most important thing is to remember to be patient. Follow quality medical advice and try a range of different options until you find the one that allows you to have the best possible quality of life.

12 Things to Know About Trigeminal Neuralgia

Trigeminal neuralgia is a term used for facial pain which begins in the trigeminal nerve. It usually occurs in people over the age of 50 and affects women more than men. However, it is more common in people who have multiple sclerosis (MS).
We’ve put together a list of facts about trigeminal neuralgia with help from familydoctor.org and the MS Trust UK.

  • There are two trigeminal nerves running down each side of the face. Each trigeminal nerve has three main branches: the upper branch reaches to the scalp and forehead, the middle branch to the nose, cheek and upper jaw and mouth, and the lower branch reaches the lower jaw and mouth.
  • Damage to the myelin sheath protecting the nerve is what causes pain for MS sufferers.
  • Pain may be triggered by everyday activities such as eating, brushing teeth, talking, head movement, breeze, air conditioning, hot or cold food, or may come up spontaneously without any trigger.
  • Pain can last for a few seconds or up to a few minutes. For some, the pain is constant.
  • Some report pain like an electric shock, whereas others report an aching or burning sensation.
  • The pain can range from mild to excruciating.
  • Flares can last for hours, days, or even months.
  • Dental pain or eye pain can sometimes be mistaken for trigeminal neuralgia, so if you experience pain in your mouth or eyes it’s wise to visit your dentist or ophthalmologist.
  • Over-the-counter pain medications are not effective for trigeminal neuralgia pain.
  • Trigeminal neuralgia is often treated with carbamazepine to begin with. Baclofen may be given to help relax the muscles.
  • If medication doesn’t work, surgery may be required to deliberately injure the trigeminal nerve so that it stops sending pain signals.
  • It’s estimated that between four and six people living with MS will suffer from trigeminal neuralgia. Usually, they’re over the age of 40.

Make This Avocado Cauliflower Toast for an Easy Nutritious, Low-Carb Breakfast

We aren’t making any promises, but you’re probably going to replace all your toast once you learn how to make this cauliflower avocado toast! Each component of this recipe – the cauliflower, avocado, and an optional fried egg – come with surprising and powerful health benefits.

Some Health Benefits of Avocado Cauliflower Toast

Avocados are an interesting fruit. In comparison to many carbohydrate-rich fruits, avocados are rich in healthy fats. They are also high in vitamins and minerals (e.g., vitamins B5, B6, C, E, K, folate, potasium, etc). The green fruit is also known to help people lose weight and lower bad cholesterol.
Cauliflower is a cruciferous vegetable that’s rich in fiber, vitamin K, and potassium. Research to date also suggests that daily consumption of cauliflower can also help prevent diseases such as cancer.

Avocado Cauliflower Toast

They’re crispy on the outside, tender on the inside, and waiting to be made by you!

Ingredients

  • 1/2 head cauliflower
  • 3 eggs (2 whole, 1 whisked)
  • 1/2 tablespoon Himalayan pink salt
  • 1 Tbsp coconut oil
  • 1 avocado (peeled, pitted, and mashed)
  • 1 lemon’s worth of juice
  • Pinch, red chili flakes

Directions

  1. Grate all your cauliflower into a bowl, mix in the whisked egg, and add in a generous pinch of salt
  2. Drizzle your skillet with coconut oil at medium heat, then add 1/4 cup-sized patties into the pan and slightly flatten them
  3. Add as many patties as you want or as your pan can fit; cook each side until golden brown (approxiately 6 minutes a side)
  4. After plating them, fry the remaining 2 eggs in same skillet to your desired doneness
  5. While the eggs are frying, quickly mash avocado, mix in lemon juice (and optional salt to taste)
  6. Next, spread a layer of avocado over each cauliflower toast, sprinkle a pinch of chili flakes, and top with a fried egg
  7. Lastly, serve… immediately.

Enjoy! The greatest thing about this avocado cauliflower toast is that you can really play with it! From grated cheese to shallots to sautéed peppers, have fun with it and make it your own.

7 Things You Need To Know About A Narcissist

“Inflated sense of self…”
“excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance…”
“extreme selfishness…”
“grandiose views of one’s own talents and a craving for admirations…””
“self-centeredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects….in either babies or as a feature of mental disorder…”
Congratulations! By reading though these snippets of personality traits attempting to define narcissism, you have a good sense of nearly every affective, narcissistic symptom!
In reality, more narcissists exist than we may believe. Consider this statistic: it is estimated that over 6% of the population suffers from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). It is important to distinguish between traits of narcissism and the actual disorder as defined by mental health experts.
Many people, from time-to-time, may exhibit some type of narcissism. However, constant display of five or more of these behaviors is a strong indication of NPD:
– Frequently showing arrogant attitudes and/or behaviors.
– Consistent displays of envy whilst believing everyone else in envious of them.
– Lack of empathy.
– Using exploitative techniques against others for personal gain.
– Incessant need for attention and/or praise.
– Believes themselves to be in a “higher class,” often only associating with those similar.
– Fantasizes about fame, wealth, beauty, power and success.
– Grandiose beliefs pertaining to self-importance.
– Exaggerates upon their successes and talents.
Now that you’ve got a good understanding of narcissism, here are 7 other things you should know. 

7 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT NARCISSISTS

1. THE CAUSES OF NARCISSISM ARE UNKNOWN

Narcissism is considered an enigmatic condition by medical professionals, in that the root cause(s) are unknown. The consensus, if one can indeed call it such, is that narcissism may arise from some combination of environmental and genetic factors. Maladjustment – the inability to “fit in” to traditional social circles – is generally considered to be a contributor, and is often observable from an early age.

2. NARCISSISTS CAN BE NEARLY UNDETECTABLE

Many narcissists are clever folk in that they disguise themselves very well. First off, narcissists don’t often exhibit traditional signs of ‘mental illness’ in the traditional sense. In fact, a narcissist may appear to be gregarious, outgoing and charming – all desirable traits to have in a friend or acquaintance. However, it may become apparent that something may appear to be “off” due to their inflated sense of self-importance and an insatiable need for attention. However, a clever narcissist is often quickly able to dispel any notion of emotional or psychological imbalance.

3. NARCISSISM MAY BE ON THE RISE

According to research, there are increasing numbers of narcissists among us. Social scientists and other experts state that over 9% of 20- to 29-year olds exhibit traits of extreme narcissism, as opposed to just over 3% of people over the age of 65. These disproportionate numbers have led some to conclude that society’s penchant for narcissistic behavior is on the rise. What is to blame for this increasing trend? Some point to our fascination with social media, selfies, and consumerism.

4. TREATING NARCISSISM IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT

Narcissistic disorders cannot be treated in the traditional medical sense. There is no regimen of pills or other scientific means of curing someone of narcissism. To complicate matters, most narcissists do not believe there is anything “wrong” with them; quite the contrary, actually – narcissists have an innate sense of superiority. In other words, everyone else is wrong and, quite possibly, jealous. Uh-huh.

5. NARCISSISTS CAN BE FOUND OUT

While some narcissists can slip by undetected, there indeed are ways of discovering if someone is indeed narcissistic. One way to do this is to simply attempt to have a conversation with them. Narcissists are notorious for attempting to dominate conversation. They love to talk (usually about themselves), but hate to listen; they generally don’t care much for other people’s problems, opinions or observations.
Also, narcissists almost always display some degree of manipulation. They’ll twist words, facts and situations to make themselves appear better to everyone else, often at the expense of others. Additionally, they often won’t follow through the generally-understood social contract: most of us will be accommodating and display some semblance of selflessness, while narcissists almost never display such nobility.

6. LOVING A NARCISSIST IS VERY DIFFICULT

It goes without saying, but having a narcissist as a family member is extremely difficult on those that unconditionally love and care for the person. Narcissists are very taxing on other people’s emotions, particularly for people that are close to them. As such, it may be wise – in order to save themselves from continual pain – to remain “close yet distant.” This can be extremely hard to do, as narcissists are master manipulators – often playing on others emotions to garner sympathy and support when, in fact, they are not deserving of such.

7. NARCISSISTS ARE PEOPLE TOO

The vast majority of people reading this article are kind, selfless and sympathetic to others. We will almost always give people “the benefit of the doubt” and forgive them of their innate flaws. Simply put: we value the sacredness of human life. As such, while it may be tempting to completely disavow a narcissist, it is important to remember that they are human beings as well. Do we need to interact with them? No. Do we need to appease them? Absolutely not. But, at the same time, we can at least “do no harm” while still standing our ground against their attempts at deception.

12 Things Narcissists Say And What They REALLY Mean

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship with a malignant narcissist or otherwise manipulative, toxic person is well acquainted with how they use language differently.

The phrases that most people use in everyday conversations bear a far different meaning in the context of an abusive relationship with a narcissist.  As Carrie Barron M.D. notes, “Current thought challenges the notion that narcissists secretly suffer from low self-esteem or insecurity.  Or that they suffer as much as we thought in the ways that we thought. Recent findings indicate they take pleasure in successful manipulations. Putting down unsuspecting, soft-hearted souls in their midst is a sport. They truly believe in their superiority even if objective evidence does not back it up.”

When you’re dealing with an empathy-deficient individual with a high sense of entitlement and a sadistic need to bring others down, conversations become crazymaking minefields meant to psychologically terrorize and divert you. In fact, to decode a narcissist’s language requires listening more to their actions than their words.

When a narcissist’s words are translated into their actual meaning, the results are frankly disturbing. Here are twelve common phrases narcissists use and what they actually mean:

1. I love you. 

Translation: I love owning you. I love controlling you. I love using you. It feels so good to love-bomb you, to sweet-talk you, to pull you in and to discard you whenever I please. When I flatter you, I can have anything I want. You trust me. You open up so easily, even after you’ve already been mistreated. Once you’re hooked and invested, I’ll pull the rug beneath your feet just to watch you fall.

2. I am sorry you feel that way.

Translation: Sorry, not sorry. Let’s get this argument over with already so I can continue my abusive behavior in peace. I am not sorry that I did what I did, I am sorry I got caught. I am sorry you’re calling me out. I am sorry that I am being held accountable. I am sorry you have the emotions that you do. To me, they’re not valid because I am entitled to have everything I want – regardless of how you feel about it.

3. You’re oversensitive/overreacting.

Translation: You’re having a perfectly normal reaction to an immense amount of bullshit, but all I see is that you’re catching on. Let me gaslight you some more so you second-guess yourself. Emotionally invalidating you is the key to keeping you compliant. So long as you don’t trust yourself, you’ll work that much harder to rationalize, minimize and deny my abuse. While you’re working so hard to please me, I am reaping all the benefits without any consequences for my behavior.

4. You’re crazy.

Translation: I am a master of creating chaos to provoke you. I love it when you react. That way, I can point the finger and say you’re the crazy one. After all, no one would listen to what you say about me if they thought you were just bitter or unstable. Forget the fact that I am the one who’s truly rageful and irrational, lashing out anything that threatens my sense of superiority.

5. My exes are crazy.

Translation: I made my exes crazy. It was so fun! All I had to do was provoke, poke and prod until I got a reaction. Finally when I did, I used those reactions against them to show everyone how unhinged they are. Soon, you’ll be the “crazy ex” too.

6. She/he is just a friend.

Translation: I keep this person as a backup for whenever I get bored. They may replace you if you leave. In fact, they may already be acting as a valuable side piece. If you complain about my shady behavior with this person, I’ll make sure you seem like the controlling one.

7. You’re so jealous and insecure.

Translation: God, this love triangle is fun. I love the way you compete for my attention. Makes me feel so desirable and powerful when I flirt with others in front of you. Gets you riled up. It’s especially entertaining to manufacture insecurities in you by pointing out flaws that don’t exist or to pick at the wounds that already do. The more diminished you feel, the less likely you’ll try to escape my grasp. The truth is, everything you suspect about my flirtations and affairs is grounded in reality. But let me remind you: I am entitled to everything. That includes the attention of other romantic prospects.

8. You have trust issues.

Translation: I am an untrustworthy person, which I’ve shown time and time again by betraying you. Your gut is right, but it’ll be a cold day in hell if I ever admit it. The best thing you could probably do is trust yourself and run in the other direction – but of course, that would be far less fun for me.

9. It’s not all about you.

Translation: It’s really all about me, me, me. If you ever turn the attention back to your own needs, I’ll make sure to project my own self-centeredness onto you. I’ll make you feel guilty and ashamed of having these needs in the first place, because I’ll never be able to fulfill them. I just don’t have the emotional equipment to do so – nor do I want to, because it takes the focus away from the person who’s really important. Me!

10. Why can’t we remain friends?

Translation: I really don’t like losing members of my personal harem. I’d prefer to keep you on the back burner in case I need to use you in the future. Plus, collecting exes is a hobby of mine. It’s so convenient to be able to reach out to one whenever I am feeling especially bored. Who knew being friends could be such a great way to prevent losing valuable sources of supply so easily?

11. No one would believe you.

Translation: I’ve isolated you to the point where you feel you have no support. I’ve smeared your name to others ahead of time so people already suspect the lies I’ve told about you. So yes, some people may not believe you – especially the ones who still think I am an amazing person. Especially the people who continue to enable me.

There are still others who might believe you, though, and I can’t risk being caught. Making you feel alienated and alone is the best way for me to protect my image. It’s the best way to convince you to remain silent and never speak the truth about who I really am.

12. You’ll never find someone else like me.

Translation: If you never find someone else like me, that’s a good thing. There are empathic people out there who will treat you far better than I ever did. But I’d never want you to find them or discover your true worth. I’d prefer you to keep pining after me.